The quote on the small scrap of paper hung on my bedroom mirror for years after my husband left. It’s frayed a bit around the edges now. The color is a little faded. The paper is no longer smooth and glossy. It’s crumpled, wrinkled but inspiring like an old woman who’s been through too much.
It’s funny how things like this strike you as interesting or even memorable at one time but are life changing when they strike at just the right moment. I believe those “just the right moment” moments are little gifts from the Holy Spirit, but whether you believe in coincidence or whatever, those “just the right moment” moments can make a difference.
The quote, from some magazine I no longer remember and couldn’t have had time to read carefully, caught me at just the right moment reminding me that…
America is too great
for small dreams.
Those were Ronald Reagan’s words, and the quote struck me hard. As a single Mom of five boys going through a devastating divorce, I had rough days. I wondered how my husband could skip out on us and on child support too. I wondered how I’d feed these precious children. I wondered where we would live once the bank foreclosed on our home. I wondered how I would ever raise five boys, how I would get them to activities and games, how I would help them with homework and school projects on my own.
I was stuck in survival mode. I was doing what needed to be done for everyone else, spinning my wheels, exhausted, deflated, running low on Hope, self-esteem, and possibilities. So much needed to be done just to make it through each day. I’d fall into bed late each night not wanting to think about doing the same thing for an endless number of tomorrows but not knowing how to stop my circling thoughts either. I just needed to survive…
I’d mixed up survival with success
and thought I could not ask for more.
My Grandfather was a WWII Navy pilot over Japan who taught us to love faith, family, and country, and I’d always been grateful to those who served. I’d always loved this beautiful land we’ve been given and fascinated by the amazing people who carve her paths.
But this quote and the realization of what life would probably be like for my boys and me if we lived in most other areas of the world made me stop and think and re-examine how small my dreams for success had become.
I’d spent so much time worrying about putting food on my table, a roof over our heads, and raising five boys that I’d forgotten how to dream big. I wanted a j-o-b when I should have wanted a career. I wanted housing, when I should have created a home. I wanted boys to go to their activities and do well in school when I should have been happy raising boys to be responsible, faith-filled, strong Men.
Memorial Day Motivation
Today, in America we celebrate Memorial Day, a day to honor those who paid the Ultimate Sacrifice for our freedom: Men and women from all over the United States who have given their time to fight under threat of chemical attacks in the hot desert sun, who have left their loved ones to fight in the steamy jungles of far away lands, who have given their lives to protect what they knew was most at risk…
the American Dream.
We make resolutions at New Years, “This year I’ll…”
at milestone birthdays, “When I hit 40, I’ll…”
and at life events, “After I retire I’ll…”
Today, is a day few see as a day to bring about change, but it should be. Memorial Day is a day to grieve and to mourn, to remember and be thankful, but it should also be a day to rejoice and inspire. If you are reading this, you have freedoms and opportunities many others do not have. You cannot bring back the lost, but you can make the most of what they’ve given you.
You can and you must
The American dream somehow became a ginormous house with two cars, 2.5 perfect children, a dog, and a white picket fence.
This dream is too small, too ordinary, to blah! It’s too normal, too sold out, too exact, too easy, and it costs too much that can’t be measured in dollar bills. What many think is the American Dream represents what we think we want because it’s tangible and obvious and because we are afraid that what we really want doesn’t exist.
The true American Dream is what we imagine is inside the house: Love, Joy, Peace, Work, Family, Faith, Beauty, Self-Worth, Security, Hope.
The American Dream doesn’t come from a big house with a white picket fence. It doesn’t come from another person assessing your value. It doesn’t come from a j-o-b.
The American Dream comes from inside of you. It comes from worth given by your Creator.
If our Military sacrificed to give us the American Dream of material possessions, things that break and don’t last, or even personal relationships, people who may be fickle and self-centered, their sacrifice is cheap and foolish, but that’s not what they did. They don’t serve, they don’t die so that you can buy more at Walmart or at Sacks Fifth Avenue either.
They sacrificed so you could live the Big American Dream, the Real American Dream. The best way you can honor those who paid the Ultimate Sacrifice is to be brave and hard-working and do what many won’t to discover what many are afraid to express and what many more don’t know how to pursue.
You can honor our fallen by realizing many people’s American Dream is too small, that you were created for MORE.
America is too great for small dreams, so what do you do now?
What is hidden inside your “house with the white picket fence”? What is it that you really want and how do you get there? What challenges will you face along the way and how will you overcome them? What kind of help will you need along the way, and who can you count on? What are you willing to risk? What are you willing to give? What are you willing to gain?
How does reaching for your American Dream ease the sacrifice of those who give their all?
Today, is Memorial Day in America. Today, wherever you are, you have a choice. You cannot replace those who died, but you can use the gift of freedom, given to you by those who serve, and the gift of free will, given to you by God, to make the best of every moment, every day. Never let their sacrifice be in vain. Choose to Love. Choose to Live, Choose to use freedom to dream the Biggest American Dream.
If you’d like help figuring out what your dream is and how to make it come true, contact me. I understand the value of dreams and believe no dream is too big and no step is too small. Helping you achieve your dreams is my passion!
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Together, we will get you unstuck and propel you forward, and I bet you’ll even have fun doing it!
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