I first watched that show with a sort of fascinated horror, women and men living in unimaginable filth. Like rodents these human beings had crafted pathways through piles of crap (no other words describe what was piled almost to the ceilings of every room). Broken pieces of china, dirty toys, ripped paperbacks, waterlogged furniture, discarded dolls, crap…piles and piles of crap.
I couldn’t imagine the smells of the dwellings. I couldn’t imagine the dwellings being called Home. Could they even be called houses anymore? I couldn’t bring myself to do it.
I felt my fascinated horror grow as the camera followed the inhabitants from room to room, stepping over, tripping on, and leaning against those piles of crap to bedrooms where the inhabitants slept sitting up because there was no room to stretch out, to kitchens where mice and roaches scurried about unafraid in their home, to bathrooms where, in the worst scenarios, clogs had made facilities unusable and plastic bags were used instead of septic systems. Conditions were beyond CRAP!
How could anyone live like that?
I couldn’t imagine, and yet I watched full day Hoarder marathons using it as motivation to clean my own Home and while I did, I realized something.
No one becomes a hoarder with intention. None of those hoarders woke up and said, “I want to live in filth. I want to embarrass and horrify my family. I want to alienate my friends and isolate myself from society. I want to be unemployable and financially indebted. I want to look bad and smell worse. I think I’ll become a hoarder today.”
No, hoarding usually results from some traumatic experience, the loss of a loved one, divorce & single parenting stress, an abuse situation, prolonged job loss, and a compounded, extreme sense of worthlessness requiring skilled, faith-filled counseling.
But Hoarders: Buried Alive made me realize that while the hoarding these people were doing was obvious, identifiable, and extreme, many of us have hidden hoarding tendencies, perhaps not of piles of CRAP in our blocking paths in our homes, but of piles of dreams blocking paths in our futures.
We store and hold onto broken pieces of dreams, dirty memories holding us back, ripped up goals, waterlogged plans, discarded worth,
dreams…piles and piles of dreams crap…piles and piles of crap, and those broken or forgotten dreams can interfere with who we are meant to be.
Clearing out the old makes way for the new. It’s something we all have to do, but it’s not always easy.
How do you decide which dreams have value to who you are now and to the woman you were created to be some day and which dreams are broken, dirty, ripped, up, waterlogged, and need to be discarded?
There is a lot to it and it can take a long time, but you can begin by verbalizing your dreams, reflecting on and defining who you are now and who you were created to be, and keeping only those dreams that will take you closer to who you want to be one day.
I’ve walked this path before, if you’d like help, contact me for your inquiry session today!
Beloved, do not trust every spirit but test the spirits to see whether they belong to God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
~ 1 John 4:1
The Right Path Challenge:
You are not the same woman today you once were. You are not the same woman today you will be one day. Each day takes you closer to or from the woman you were created to be.
Define who you are created to be.
The Right Path Life Coaching Assignment:
List every dream you can think of. Include the realistic and the not, the achieved and the failed, those everyone knows and those you keep hidden even from yourself. Spare nothing!
Decide which dreams will get you to be the woman you defined in The Right Path’s Challenge. Give yourself permission to discard or bury the rest, and then do it.