We talk a lot about values: Family values, Catholic values, Christian values, American values, Human values. We talk a lot about what we value: Faith, Family, Country, education, intelligence, kindheartedness, loyalty, honesty so many things to value.
In the past, the term “value” referred to the value something had. There was an economic aspect to the word that we lack today, and it seems the word value may have lost its well, its value.
We are told to never judge another’s values, that everyone’s values are acceptable, but if that’s true, what value do your values have and why bother having values at all?
Values are something we talk a lot about but don’t stop to examine as often as we should.
This realization came to me a while ago. I began studying math to attain my teaching license because I value my time with students in the classroom and wanted to have time at home with my boys and teaching seemed the best way to do this. I knew it would be hard work for a while but I also knew the rewards long term would outweigh the work I had to put in now.
The thing is, I got so wrapped up in the hard work, I never did get that break. Yes, I enjoyed what I did, but I had to work so hard to be good at it that other areas of my life suffered without my even realizing it.
I was listening to one of my life coaching courses where values were being discussed and I realized that my values had somehow shifted. I had begun working so hard because I valued time with my family, but I had continued working so hard because I valued my work, I valued knowing I was doing a Good job in the classroom, and I valued supporting my children – even if that meant providing financial support over a support of being present.
Wow! Anyone who knew me would know I valued my job. Would they know how much I valued my Faith or my Family? more to the point, would my children know? I hoped so, but I wasn’t entirely sure, and it was an eye opener!
Knowing who you are is often wrapped up in knowing what you value and where you spend your time. You can achieve your more by spending time doing activities you value with people you value.
Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant searching for fine pearls. When he finds a pearl of great price, he goes and sells all that he has and buys it.
Define Your Values
Before you can become who you are truly Created to be, you need to have defined values. It often seems like defining values should be easy, but it’s seldom as simple as it seems. Sometimes an outsiders view can teach you a lot about yourself. Think about where and how you spend your time. If you spent a day with yourself, what would you say you value?