It might be that relationships are strained, not what we hoped they’d be, or falling apart completely. It might be that we are unhappy with our jobs, long hours, low pay, time away from family and things we want to be doing, or it’s just a J-O-B, and not what we are Called to do. It might be that decorating and shopping and partying become exhausting and overwhelming and we’ve compensated by overeating and overspending and over-celebrating and are questioning where to go in the New Year.
You are not alone. Many people experience similar negative feelings, called desolation, during the holiday season. Desolation is always felt as a negative emotion of some sort, loneliness, sadness, anxiety, fear, timidity. Desolation is always a negative emotion, but the result of desolation can be very positive.
The challenge is figuring out where your particular desolation comes from. Negative feelings may be sent to motivate you to look in the mirror, examine your routine piece by piece, inspire you to set new goals, and ask you to reach forgotten dreams.
Be open to using desolation for Good rather than being drowned under its negativity. Talking things over with someone who cares helps you identify the root of your personal desolation and what to do about it. It makes a world of difference in, not just overcoming your negativity, but achieving Joy.
Choosing who to share with is important. Sometimes, untrained friends offer sympathy but are too close to be objective. Other times your own fear or uncertainty prevents you from sharing secret anxieties and dreams.
That’s understandable but not helpful.
A life coach is a trained listener, skilled in asking questions and in hearing potential you don’t even realize lies within you. She is a woman who has “been there” and is no longer afraid to explore big dreams and laugh freely. She is a non-judgmental partner who celebrates in helping you along your journey.
This holiday season, as celebrations fill the air around you, take time to reflect on any desolation you feel. Be open to the possibility that desolation could be calling you to reach your more!
Do not fear: I am with you;
do not be anxious: I am your God.
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.
Name your desolation, either obvious or buried.
TRP Life Coaching Assignment:
Identify what prompts your desolation and where you would be a year from now if it was not a factor. Write a letter to your “next year self.”