“Are you crazy? Why would you even think of doing such a thing?”
Have you ever asked your friends for advice and gotten totally different responses from different people for the same exact question?
It happens all the time and do you want to know why?
I’m going to assume that you do! 😉 It’s because your friends innocently bring their own agendas into your issues, into your life. They don’t mean to and probably aren’t even aware that they’re doing it, but it’s inevitable.
Your friends have experiences, inhibitions, and goals that are different from your own and, when you ask them a question or seek their advice, they unconsciously insert their experiences and goals into yours. If your idea fits their goals they think you should go for it! If not, they assume it’s a bad idea – or maybe just the right idea but at the wrong time.
Your friends also limit you to what they think they know about you. This isn’t a fault of anyone. It just is. Each of us has a persona we show the outside world and a hidden self even our closest loved ones don’t know completely. Opinions of others result from what the others know of your public persona rather than your true abilities and dreams.
So what are you capable of? How do you achieve those goals? Is that dream a reality?
You’ll never know unless you try, but few succeed without a plan or at least some way of meandering through ideas to the pot of gold at the end of their rainbows. This is where a life coach comes in.
A professional, experienced life coach has been trained to listen to you, for your wants, for your needs, for your goals, dreams, and abilities, for all the possibilities you haven’t let the world see! A trained life coach does not bring her experiences, inhibitions, or goals into your dreams.
As your life coach, I don’t give you answers. I help you define the best way to achieve that dream when you decide to go for it and see ways around the obstacles that made your friends tell you you couldn’t or shouldn’t try.
Life coaching is about you and what you want and what you can achieve when obstacles are overcome and lofty, realistic goals are explored and then set. Life coaching is about you achieving who you are called to be.
So keep your friends. They are amazing people aren’t they?
But take their advice with a grain of salt.
And hold nothing back on your journey to becoming more!
The babble of some people is like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise is healing.
~ Proverbs 12:18
What experiences, inhibitions, and goals do your friends have that might influence your dreams?